Cancer; It Will Never Happen To Me
Wednesday, August 13, 2014
Two year writing break... and back.
After two years of not posting, I think it is time I get back to it. Time to continue what I intended to do all along. Here it goes...
Thursday, May 17, 2012
1 year
Life was so amazingly great for everyone with Vanessa in Remission. It was incredible, she was incredible. Such a rare and agressive cancer gone in less then 1 year. She was healthy, active, and so alive. She could ride 40 miles on her bike, and outswim me every day. So of course the question came to mind, how long... how long before we knew her chances at staying in remission were great. 1 year. At 1 year in remission the chance of a Relapse would be significantly decreased.
Easy right? I mean 1 year... she got rid of the baseball sized tumor in less the 1 year, we could keep it gone for 1 year. Her health after that fight and scare was amazing.. biking, swimming, hiking. Giving me her flippers in the pool becaus I was tired, and she just kicked her little legs away with such ease... It almost seemed as though this second chance at life made her stronger... so 1 year... piece of cake!
I remember people often asking me how she was doing in her fight against Cancer, and I always responded with "Looks like she kicked it's ass. She is Cancer free right now, no detectable Cancer cells, all labs are normal, and she is incredibly healthy and strong. The cancer left in less then a year, we can keep it that way for 1 year".
1 year.... Lord, just 1 year....
Friday, February 3, 2012
Remission
Remission... the one word every person fighting Cancer longs to hear. Remission... its over...
Vanessa went into remission shortly after beginning her treatments at COH. She was well on her way to remission when she was first accepted to COH and then everything just fell into place and she was Cancer free! I could not believe it.. It felt too good to be true. She responded great to all chemotherapy drugs. Granted, she was very ill during the chemo, it worked and it worked fast. How was it possible that after being diagnosed with such a rare and agressive form of Cancer that now she was already Cancer free? A Miracle. A miracle from God. A second chance at life, a semi normal life. Vanessa was still being seen several times a week. Routine lab work and doctors appointments.
I remember the night we celebrated. I cannot remember the exact date that remission occured, but I will go though her medical charts one of these days and find it... but my hair was still very short.. so it had to of only been about 6 months of treatment before she went into full remission. We went to celebrate at Dave and Busters with her long time childhood friend June, and another Jillian that we went to highschool with. We celebrated with drinks, and playing lots of games. She was truly glowing that night. So happy, so beautiful, and so full of life.
It did not take Vanessa much time to return to her normal activities, and then some. I could not believe how strong she was. She started riding her bike again. I am not just talking around the block.. she was able to ride 40 miles several times a week. Her and I started swimming together at the gym... and she could kick my butt at that. She rock climed. It was incredible. It almost seemed as if she was healthier then before she got diagnosed. It was like her body was cleansed from all illness, from all posions, and new. She was new, and not taked life for grantid. She was living it up, and again resuming to an active healthy life style. When I think about it, a lot of it reminds me of Lance Armstrong. Not shocking, as he has been on of her role models through all of this.
No more hospital stays, and no more aggressive drugs. Back home with Matt where they could pick life back up from where they left off. We were all so happy, and it almost seemed as though the hole thing never happened. Besides her being bald, and my hair looking like a que tip you would never ever suspect that girl had a tumor the size of a baseball resting on her heart just a few short months ago. You would never know how much weight she really lost from all the nausea and vomiting. She recovered at the speed of light... It was amazing and such a relief. We all had Vanessa back, and kicked Cancer to the curb.
Vanessa went into remission shortly after beginning her treatments at COH. She was well on her way to remission when she was first accepted to COH and then everything just fell into place and she was Cancer free! I could not believe it.. It felt too good to be true. She responded great to all chemotherapy drugs. Granted, she was very ill during the chemo, it worked and it worked fast. How was it possible that after being diagnosed with such a rare and agressive form of Cancer that now she was already Cancer free? A Miracle. A miracle from God. A second chance at life, a semi normal life. Vanessa was still being seen several times a week. Routine lab work and doctors appointments.
I remember the night we celebrated. I cannot remember the exact date that remission occured, but I will go though her medical charts one of these days and find it... but my hair was still very short.. so it had to of only been about 6 months of treatment before she went into full remission. We went to celebrate at Dave and Busters with her long time childhood friend June, and another Jillian that we went to highschool with. We celebrated with drinks, and playing lots of games. She was truly glowing that night. So happy, so beautiful, and so full of life.
It did not take Vanessa much time to return to her normal activities, and then some. I could not believe how strong she was. She started riding her bike again. I am not just talking around the block.. she was able to ride 40 miles several times a week. Her and I started swimming together at the gym... and she could kick my butt at that. She rock climed. It was incredible. It almost seemed as if she was healthier then before she got diagnosed. It was like her body was cleansed from all illness, from all posions, and new. She was new, and not taked life for grantid. She was living it up, and again resuming to an active healthy life style. When I think about it, a lot of it reminds me of Lance Armstrong. Not shocking, as he has been on of her role models through all of this.
No more hospital stays, and no more aggressive drugs. Back home with Matt where they could pick life back up from where they left off. We were all so happy, and it almost seemed as though the hole thing never happened. Besides her being bald, and my hair looking like a que tip you would never ever suspect that girl had a tumor the size of a baseball resting on her heart just a few short months ago. You would never know how much weight she really lost from all the nausea and vomiting. She recovered at the speed of light... It was amazing and such a relief. We all had Vanessa back, and kicked Cancer to the curb.
Friday, November 18, 2011
Slumber Parties
Back when Vanessa and I were kids, we would always spend the night at each others house. We stayed up late talking, and just being high school girls. Slumber parties continued on into our adult lives, and although very much the same as they were when we were kids, they changed drastically.
Wednesday, November 16, 2011
An Epidemic
Before Vanessa's diagnoses, Cancer was something I heard about all the time on the news, but really knew nothing about or how many it actually affected. It was crazy, within months of her diagnosis I learned of so many more cases, from people I actually knew.
Ron Reed, my engineer from the Fire Department. He came to work one morning and went to use the rest room. He came out and told the captain he had just pissed blood. Dave told him to leave work right away and go to the doctor. Dave told Ron this happened to someone in his family, and it turned out to be cancer. Ron went to see the doctor and sure enough, it was Cancer. Ron was diagnosed with Renal Cell Carcinoma and givin a prognosis of five years to live. Ron faught a hard battle, and passed away this current year in 2011.
Then I learned of an old friend from high school, Sandra Gronley. Sandra had a husband diagnosed with Hodgkins Lymphoma, and then shortly after... her daughter of only 5 years of age was diagnosed with Leukemia. I mean... WTF.... two people in her family.. are you freakin kidding me? Now this case has baffled me and is on my mind a lot. Lymphoma and Leukemia are very tightly linked Cancers. As far as Cancer goes, Lymphoma and Leukemia could be sisters. So yeah, I am curious, what caused the Cancer in Sandra's husband, and in her daughter? There has to be something genetic, there must be something that would be detectible to know if the gene is running in a family... what is the link? How do we stop this from happening? Today I am happy to say that Sandra's husband continues to be Cancer free after his battle, and her daughter is also Cancer free! Thank you God!
After shaving my head I met yet another person. I was working one night at the Country Club. I was taking care of Mr. and Mrs. Kenny. Mrs. Kenny noticed my bald head with a scarf around it, and a lime green ribbon pinned to my appron. She asked why I wore the ribbon. I explained Vanessa to her, and then she told me that she herself was fighting Cancer. Mrs. Kenny was also a patient at City of Hope. Over the months to come Mrs. Kenny gave me more knowledge and advice then any one could ever know. She donated several wigs and hats to Vanessa and always asked me about Vanessa's current condition. Mrs. Kenny had faught Cervical Cancer. She is now a survivor!
Mrs. Weston. She was also a member of the Country Club, and was diagnosed with Breast Cancer, she also went through a very hard fight. Mrs. Weston loved the fact that I shaved my head, and we soon became close sharing all the details of Cancer with each other. I am also proud to say that Mrs. Weston is a Cancer Survior.
Winni Strut, also a member of the Country Club. Winni and her husband Dave were members I was already close with because of my friend and co-worker Rowena. Winni has been fighting lung cancer for many many years. She is a beautiful woman with a beautiful heart. Again, so supportive of me shaving my head. She also donated some hats to both Vanessa and I. Today, Winni continues to fight Cancer.
Sandy Watson, my long time neighbor of mine and also member of the Country Club. I just learned of her diagnosis with Lung Cancer and have yet to fallow up.
Another high school class mate, Tory Ward. Tory was diagnosed with Primary Angionsarcoma of the Breast Cancer this year of 2011. From what I have learned from fallowing her posts on Facebook, is that she is one strong girl, and I know she will beat this Cancer!
Jennifer Dunlop: I met Jenny before Vanessa was diagnosed. I did not know Jenny during her battle of Cancer. However today, she still has labs drawn to make sure she is clear. Jenny is a survivor of stage 4 Melenoma Skin Cancer.
Chrissie Riley, Jennifers Sister had been diagnoes with Colon Cancer. Again, is there somehow a link? Two different Cancers, but Cancer is Cancer. Two sisters, each affected by Cancer... what is the link here? Chrissie is also a survior today of Cancer.
An old friend of mine, Robyn Thomas. Her Grandmother was diagnoes with Colon Cancer. Today she is also in remission.
Frannie Tassone, a member from the country club. For many years I baby sat the Frannie and Stephen's children while they would visit the mountain. There was one year that I had not seen the Tassone family in several months. It was unlike this family to not be in the mountains during the golf season. I later learned Frannie had been Diagnosed with rectal Cancer. Today, she is a survivor.
So I know 13 people who are either fighting Cancer, have faught Cancer, or have passed away from Cancer. I feel like 13 is an awfully high number... Do you know 13 people with Cancer? Knowing 13 people who have had to go through this terrible disease is way too many. This is truly an epidemic.
Check out this Link to the American caner Society. The data shows how many people in the United States alone were living with Cancer in the year 2008. The numbers are shocking. So What do we do to prevent this. How do we stop Cancer from taking over. Surely there must be a way, and part of it starts in the way we live.
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
Finding Hope
After being at Arrowhead Regional and in the dark for so many months, Vanessa decided she deserved better, and went on the search for new treatment. She got hold of her medical records and set up a consultation at City of Hope . She asked me if I could go with her that day to meet with the Doctor and of course I accompanied her.
Just upon arrival, we were blown away at the size of the facility. HUGE and beautiful! Just driving onto the campus gave us both a surge of excitement and Hope. This is where Vanessa needed to be, this place was for her. We parked the car and walked to the main entrance of the Hospital. A beautiful fountain placed out front where we took our first pictures together of finally finding Hope. I can always see the photos in my mind, I don’t even need to see them. Vanessa looked so happy, and relieved to finally be somewhere better. We walked inside and got her file with directions on places we needed to go. This place was huge, and pretty confusing to find our way, but we made it through on the hoops and jumps and finally were waiting to meet with the Doctor.
One thing I will never forget about that day was how many people complemented Vanessa. Other Cancer patients, and workers, and even guests. She was told over and over again how beautiful she was. And she was beautiful that day. She was honestly glowing that day, more then I think I have ever seen in the past. She literally looked like an Angel that day. The more she was complimented, the more she became confident, and Hopeful. It was obvious she belonged here.
Finally we were brought back to meet with the consulting Doctor. Dr. Pablo Parker. We sat in his office anxiously waiting for him to come in. I brought a pen and a notepad with me because I wanted to take notes. I was Hoping we could gain some answers this day, and I didn’t want to miss a single word he had to say. I also had a list of my own questions, and questions Vanessa needed help remembering.
We got in the car and headed out for a dinner celebration. I treated Vanessa to a nice dinner and a couple drinks at the Yard House. We called her mom and shared the wonderful news that Vanessa was a patient at City of Hope, and the best news of all… she was well on her way to REMISSION!!!!
This was an amazing day. I will never forget this day, and I will never be ungrateful to Dr. Parker. He was so kind and I fell in love with him that day. Dr. Parker is what Vanessa needed. I mean he was an excellent man. He provided us with Hope. What more could we ask for?
"The Attitude"
Having a positive attitude took time to find. Of course when first being diagnosed Vanessa was scared and angry. She had the same question as everyone else. “Why me?”
I remember one day particular in the beginning of treatment. Vanessa was struggling with understanding why she had Cancer, and how long she would live. She was certain at the time that it was unbeatable.
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